"The earth belongs to the living" (Thomas Jefferson).
We belong together...
or so tonight's lyrics say...
Anyone know the textbook definition of "belong"?
a. To be proper, appropriate, or suitable
b. To be in an appropriate situation or environment
c. To have in one's possession
d. To be a part of something else
When we think about our lives... what it revolves around, how we make our distinctions of what we want and who we are... does the word above and its definition to apply to EVERY situation we can think of? Even, and in most cases ESPECIALLY when it comes to love. Ah yes, the magic word that tortures us through out our lives. Regardless of the type of love.... Love from a partner (or lack there of), love from or of our family (or lack there of), love from friends (which is the one that is most often the unconditional one, despite the traditional thought that it comes from our family!) love for our careers, and most importantly, Love for ourselves.
Its strange how the two are so strongly intertwined. Sadly, don't most of us affiliate our love for ourselves with some sort "belonging"? That when we finally fall into either definition A, B or D, it strengthens or even creates the self love we should all have already? Now, I left out definition C... and if I need to explain why, you should not be reading this blog. But to educate some of you, its because, you can have all sorts of "belongings" and it will not affect your self love. The opening line said by Thomas Jefferson is an exact example. The WORLD belongs to YOU. Yes, YOU. And yet, we need the love of others to create our sense of self worth. When we already have the world in our possession. The entire. fucking.WORLD. Doesn't it make you sad that the earth belongs to us, and yet we need the sense of "belonging" to define or justify our self love?!
To love and be loved, should not be what creates or strengthens self worth and love. But should be merely an agreement. An agreement that you love who you are... and so do they. And its ok if they change their mind, but you won't change yours. If other disagreements in your life don't change who you are, why should that one?
Excellent point my Jen. I have discovered in my life that the only person you can rely on to make you happy is yourself. You can only give so much before you have nothing left. There are times when you need to sit back and say to yourself, 'No, this is for me and it doesn't matter how this affects anyone else'. Sounds selfish? Maybe...but when it all comes crashing down, you'll be the only person left with you and you'll have to be able to look in the mirror and live with yourself. No regrets.
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Caitlin