To love and to lust...

So I'm the furthest thing from a country music fan, but here I am listening to remember when...


A friend recently told me how she has a serious lack of desire for her husband. Not because he isn't a good man, but somewhere along the way it got lost... So I started think about marriage, divorce, love and lust.

We spend our lives searching. Searching for someone to spend our lives, have our children and grow old with... many of us have heard about how marriage changes things. Is it true we have to sacrifice the lust for the eternal love? Based on the idea of - you can't have your cake and eat it too? Like honestly.. what the fuck is the point of having the cake if you can't eat it? Is it just to remind you that its there, tempting you, reminding you that its something you can't have?

Is that what drives us to keep looking? That magical thing we often hear referred to as soul mates. People who connect so deeply, that they never feel a lack of anything in their relationship. The inconceivable notion that there is one perfect person out there for everyone is just.... its just... hopeful. If we all didn't believe in it just a little, then it means that we would agree that you can't have it all.

I believe we make a choice. We make the choice to believe that we CAN have it all. That we don't have to settle. But you have to have balls. It takes BIG balls to admit that you want more... and even more to believe that its out there, and you aren't afraid to keep looking for it. I won't promise that it'll be easy, but I can promise the risk is worth the reward. Don't have the balls? Go out and buy some... they make everything in sex stores now-a-days. Fool yourself for a while and see where you go.