Yours forever??

For better, for worse, in sickness and health....

what's better? what's worse? How does anyone promise forever? Change is inevitable and yet we base our future lives on the present. false promises used as wedding vows, how can anyone say that they'll love the someone no matter who they turn into in the future? Can you promise to love a man who starts to beat you? your children? NO? not so much right? but that's an exception??? we stand before god ( well some of us do) and in so many words promise exactly that... And somehow this is considered sacred. Vows to be taken seriously and not to be broken. But who gets to decide what the exceptions are? Is there a master list that tells you when its ok to go back on your word? OH wait!! That God we speak of, promise our lives in front of, is the one who also granted us (apparently granted us) FREE WILL. So when we break our oh so sacred vows, is that not us exercising our god given right of free will? SO which is it? Did someone along the way manipulate what vows are and aren't meant to be, so that they should be taken more seriously and deter us from being allowed to have the right to free will?

However, I do believe in love. I believe that you CAN love different versions of the same person for eternity, but the as the person changes, so does the love. Just sometimes, we don't recognize whats happening, or we don't care. Sometimes we know, and then such phrases are created like 'I love you, but I'm not IN love with you'
Which simply means, you aren't the same person, and the person I was in love with was a person who I felt romance and passionate love for, now my love has changed, and the romance and passion didn't come along with it. Heartbreaking, but honest.

I also believe that love is powerful. That it is the single most powerful thing any person can have. As it controls everything. For where would we be if the there was no love in the world? Think about it, not just romantic love, but the love of money, the love of our careers, our friends, our family, our hobbies, our children, our partners... we would be empty. robots. designed to preform instead of feel, designed to create without passion and love, and even then, how can one create without passion?

So I figure, write your own vows, don't make promises you can't keep, but if you are going to make a promise, promise to do the best that you can. And if you still can't make it last forever, don't feel ashamed. All anyone ever wants is to know that you did your best.